Grief knocks you off balance emotionally, physically and mentally. If the death had been expected, you tell yourself you should be able to cope, but you can’t. You think you’re over it, and you’re not. You think you should feel all right because you have family and friends looking out for you – but you don’t feel all right because no one can replace the person who has died.
At the Portland Centre we can do many things to help you if you or someone you care for has been bereaved.
One of the most important things to do is not feel embarrassed. You are not being weak, you are hurting and need plenty of support and love. So if you have been bereaved, talk to people about your loved one, they may be a bit frightened at first, but will soon respond with their own memories.
If you know someone who has been bereaved, please do not be afraid to talk to them about the death. Often we are frightened about making things worse, but just ask yourself, 'How much worse can it get'?
This how the Portland Centre Support Workers can help you:
- We can help you with the arrangements
- We will help you with any forms
- We will help you access the Bereavement Benefit
- We will attend Probate Court if no will was left
- We will help you contact the Solicitor to arrange for the will to be opened
- We will assist you to deal with any tax implications
- We will help you to keep your home (especially if you have lost a gay partner)
- We will mediate between family members if serious rows spring up
- We will support your grief – you can come and talk to us at any time
- We will call in specialist help if you need more counselling
- We will support you by helping you to rebuild your life, when you feel ready
If you need help with any of these issues, just call us on 01305 824333 or email us using our contact form or pop in to see a Portland Centre Staff member, to receive immediate assistance.