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Are You Frightened?

No one deserves to be abused, and you don't have to put up with it. There are a number of things you can do if you are experiencing violence and abuse from a partner or ex-partner. However, none of these will be easy and none will provide a complete or immediate end to the abuse.

A frightened woman

Getting free from abuse is a long process: most victims seek help from a number of sources, and may leave and return several times before they are able to make the final break.

One question that is often asked is: "Why didn't you leave?" or alternatively "Why did you stay so long?" If you haven't been in this situation yourself, leaving may seem the obvious answer. But there are all sorts of reasons why women victims stay with their abusers. It is also important to know that leaving does not always end the abuse - and sometimes, at least for a time, it may get worse.

Victims stay with their abusers because they still love them or because they are terrified of the consequences. The abuser may threaten to harm themselves or even kill their partner or the children if they leave. Victims may worry about losing their children, or they may feel that it is best for the children if they stay and try to make their relationship work. They may be worried about practical issues: Where can they go? Will they make themselves homeless? Where will they get money? They may be worried about loneliness, particularly if their partners have isolated them from friends and family. Maybe their confidence has been undermined so badly that they believe they couldn't cope alone, and lack the confidence to leave.

If you or someone you know needs more information or help, come to the Portland Centre, where you will find genuine support to sustain you whilst you regain control of your life.

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What next?

Just call us on 01305 824333 or e-mail us using our contact form or pop in to see a Portland Centre staff member to receive immediate assistance.